Proverbs 5:7-11 (NIV)
7 Now then, my sons, listen to me; do not turn aside from what I say.
8 Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house,
9 lest you give your best strength to others and your years to one who is cruel,
10 lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich another man’s house.
11 At the end of your life you will groan, when your flesh and body are spent.
Proverbs 5:15-18 (NIV)
15 Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well.
16 Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares?
17 Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers.
18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
Matthew 5:27-28 (NIV)
27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’
28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
When I was eating up at camp recently I remember eating one of the delicacies at breakfast. It was a cream cheese filled wonder, drenched in brown sugar and butter. Apparently it was a new creation, and those of us there that morning were the privileged ones. I asked if there was a card we could fill out with our thoughts. There was one left at our table that I wanted just for myself.
At a much different level I remember when I was dating my wife, there were times that I just wanted to be alone with her, especially when I had been away for a time. I didn’t want to share her with others. I wanted to listen to her, and her alone. I wanted to talk with her alone.
It is interesting to see in Proverbs 5 and Matthew 5, God’s concern with our willingness to share too freely in the sexual realm. His warning comes in Proverbs 5:1-14, and his encouragement to remain faithful to your first love in verses Proverbs 5:15-20. Then in Matthew 5:27-28 we see where Jesus elevated thoughts of sexual intimacy outside of marriage with that of the physical act itself. In this instance we are sharing in our mind with a woman or man we have no right to be with.
Look at these words in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 (NIV)
18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.
19 Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;
20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
In today’s world we are listening too much to our culture and not to the voice of God. God’s desire is for us to enjoy what He has created, and He has given us a specific design for us to follow. Intimacy outside of marriage is not it. Pornography is not it. Other sexual acts or thoughts are not it. He so wants us to enjoy Himself and to exhibit who He is to one another and to the world. By our faithfulness in the sexual realm we can do just that. Another beautiful thing is that if we have fallen in this area, we can seek forgiveness and find restoration and again be in a position to enjoy God and all that He has created. We can find purity to be a beautiful thing that reflects the very character of God.
Sharing is good, but at the right time and in the right relationship.
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